Let’s play a mini game. Take 5 slips of paper (it helps if the slips are of different colors, but they don’t necessarily have to be) and label them, “Family,” “Important People, “Can’t Live Without,” “Can’t Do Without,” and “Two Experiences”
On the first slip (Family) list your closest relatives, but they can only be your spouse and children. If you don’t have either, write “N/A”. On the second slip list 4 people in your life that mean a lot to you, who you need in your life and wouldn’t be the same without. On the third slip list 3 things you cannot do without that cannot fit in a carry-on bag, in other words this item cannot fit in the overhead bin of an airplane (i.e. your car, your house, etc.). On the fourth slip list 3 items you cannot do without, which can fit in a carry-on bag (i.e. cell phone, laptop, etc.) On the final slip list two experiences you had as a teenager, good or bad or both.
This was the icebreaker activity that I participated in during the first part of my volunteer orientation tonight. The activity was to get us to see how difficult it is to be a refugee, and to realize what is important to us.
Continuing with the activity… Your family cannot go with you, so tear up the first slip. Next, the individuals listed on your second slip did not make it to the safe neighboring country with you. For whatever reason, be it capture, murder, weakness. So tear it up. For safety reasons, everything listed on the third slip had to be left behind. Time is of the essence, and space is limited. The forth slip holds the only items you have to your name. And with these things, you will start your new life. Somewhere. Safer.
The last slip is an example to show us these refugees had lives, just like we did (do), but for whatever reason life was interrupted. Plans were changed, and action had to be taken. The conditions in which they were living became unsafe, life-threatening, and dangerous.
The icebreaker hit home for me, for so many reasons. The refugee sector I will be assisting in is specifically for youth, assisting them with college readiness, reading and thinking according to American’s school terms, empowerment and community service outreach.
My bleeding heart topics are the youth and education. I feel so strongly about them both it is a wonder I haven’t joined an agency like this one a long time ago, but I so feel the need to share the importance of stepping outside of our Americanized view of thinking and consider the challenges that someone possibly walking right next to us may have had to endure. The blog before last I talked about biases and racial judgments, and that issue still stands, but of course it’s not just about what we say but what we do. I wish I could walk around and touch everyone with an ungrateful mindset, but the truth is I have been guilty of it myself. And it’s so easy to let it happen! I may never know what it’s like to leave behind all you know, all you have, everything you are accustomed to in hopes that wherever I am headed next, whatever this next step is, will be better, any way better than what I have right now. The majority of us (Americans) may never. And I forget how much I should be thankful for, even when life is throwing me every hard ball that touches my sore spots.
Realizing our blessings is so much more important than getting an unexpected check in the mail, or booking that dream vacation. I am hoping this experience I am yet to embark on will help me to be a better person, to help me grow, and make me a positive force in someone’s (even if just one’s) life. And shouldn’t that be the goal of us all, at the end of the day? That every day we are one step closer to being the best we can be? We are never done; we can always use growth, improvement, and correction. And hopefully tomorrow I will a better person than I was today. If not just for me, for someone else.
I had battled for a brief second on how I wanted to close this one… but I think I’ll just end it right there. Peace y’all.